Parenting styles
Overly Permissive Parents ~ Parents who give little guidance, allow to much freedom, or do not require the child to take responsibility.
Authoritarian Parents ~ Parents who enforce rigid rules and demand strict obedience to authority.
Authoritative Parents ~ Parents who provide firm and consistence guidance combined with love and affection.
Talk to a parent, grandparent, aunt, or uncle concerning their
beliefs about child rearing. Do they closely match the authoritarian,
authoritative, or overly permissive styles you have studied in this
unit? How so?
After a long in depth conversation with my 93 year old grandmother
back home in New York, we discussed her parenting style in raising her
four girls through out the years and how hard it has been for her. I
found my grandmother used the authoritative parenting style in raising
her children. While she may have enforced rules and guidelines for the
girls to follow , my grandparents have always provided a supportive and
loving foundation for the children to grow with. For example, my mother
and aunts were never allowed out after school until their homework was
done first, nor allowed to stay out late at night as some other of
their other friends were allowed. She believes that a strong family
foundation begins in the home with teaching children with love and
compassion also in following family rules in which provide a clearer
understanding of what is or is not allowed and why.
How do you think these styles affect social, language, and cognitive development in a child?
I find the different styles of parenting can affect children in many
different ways. For example, the overly permissive parenting style may
effect children in a very negative way, by not enforcing a structural
foundation or understanding of what is permitted or not and why.
Children of overly permissive parenting may run amuck , come and go as
they please or do as they wish when they wish, in turn lacking a sense
of understanding the repercussions for their own actions in life.
Whereas, children of the authoritarian parenting style may lack in
social behavioral skills and be withdrawn in certain situations, being
cautious or apprehensive in how they deal with life in general.
Authoritarian parenting has frequently been associated with more
negative outcomes in children and adolescents. Children of authoritarian
parents have been described as less content, less affiliative toward
peers, and more insecure, apprehensive, and hostile (Baumrind, 1971).
But children raised using the authoritative parents style in my opinion
are more stable in their independence and social abilities. This style
produces children who are more resilient and develop the strengths they
need to thrive even in difficult circumstances ( Kim-Cohen et al., 2004;
Masten, 2001).
How do you think the addition of more children to a family affects parenting styles?
In families with multiple children in a household, I would think
children usually develop their own personalities, which may vary from
their other siblings. In turn, I believe parents should use their
parenting styles on a more individual level, addressing each child
accordingly to better develop how to deal with each child differently as
life’s situations or circumstances arise.
How do you think parenting styles change as children develop?
Personally, I can not say for sure how parenting styles may or may
not change as a child develops throughout the course of ones lifetime.
As I am a mother of two very young girls ages 6 & 8, I would believe
that as the children grow they will each go through different stages
in life in which my husband and myself will have to adjust accordingly
our parenting styles to the circumstances and situations they come
across through out their lifetime.
Jean Piaget - philosopher, psychologist and keen observer of children
believed that all children develop through distinct stages in
intellectual development. Piaget’s ideas have deeply affected our view
of children ( Field-man, 2004 ).
Piaget’s Theory of Cognitive Development and Stages are as follows :
The Sensorimotor Stage ( 0-2 years)
Stage of intellectual development during which sensory input and motor responses become coordinated.
The Preoperational Stage ( 2-7 years )
Period of intellectual development during which children begin to
use language and think symbolically, yet remain intuitive and
egocentric in their thoughts.
The Concrete Operational Stage ( 7-11 years )
Period of intellectual development during which children become able
to use the concepts of time, space and volume, and number, but in ways
that remain simplified and concrete. Rather than abstract.
The Formal Operations Stage ( 11 years and up )
Period of intellectual development characterized by thinking that includes abstract, theoretical , and hypothetical ideas.
Another Personality Theorist Erik Erikson ( 1903-1994 ) is best known for his life stage theory of human development. His life stage theory of human development are as follows :
Stage One: First Year of Life
Trust versus mistrust ~ A conflict early in life about learning to trust others and the world.
Stage Two: 1-3 years.
Autonomy versus shame and doubt ~ A conflict created when growing self control is pitted against feelings of shame and doubt.
Stage Three: 3-5 years.
Initiative versus guilt ~ A conflict between learning to take initiative and overcoming feelings of guilt about doing so.
Stage Four: 6-12 years.
Industry versus inferiority ~ A conflict in middle childhood
centered around lack of support for industrious behavior, which can
result in feelings of inferiority.
Stage Five: Adolescence.
Identity versus role confusion ~ A conflict of adolescence, involving the need to establish a personal identity.
Stage Six: Young Adulthood.
Intimacy versus Isolation ~ The challenge of overcoming a sense of isolation by establishing intimacy with others.
Stage Seven: Middle Adulthood.
Generativity versus Stagnation ~ A conflict of middle adulthood in which self-interest is countered by an interest in guiding the next generation.
Stage Eight: Late Adulthood.
Integrity versus despair ~ A conflict in old age between feelings of integrity and the despair of viewing previous life events with regret.
Given all the different stages in a child’s development throughout
the course of a lifetime, I would think the parenting style must adjust
accordingly during each different stage in terms of how to best nurture
the child through adulthood on a personal level.
~ Vanessa Daly
References:
Kaufman, D., Gesten, E., Santa Lucia, C. R., Salcedo, O., & et al. (2000). The relationship between parenting style and children's adjustment: The parents' perspective.
Journal of Child and Family Studies, 9(2), 231-245. Retrieved August 1,
2010, from ProQuest Psychology Journals. (Document ID: 59700788).
Coon, D., & Mitterer, J. O. (2010). Introduction to psychology: Gateways to mind and behavior, Chapter 3, Human Development, pp 78-117, (12th ed)
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